Shining Thru

I heard on a movie once that love doesn’t have a time limit, it either is or it isn’t. 

I think that is a wise quote.  You can’t put on a time frame for the steps of a relationship.  Love either is or it isn’t.  It either comes or it doesn’t.  You can’t help the way you feel, it’s part of being human.  Which makes me wonder why our society pushes so hard to label what can’t be explained fully, it can only be felt. 

We are raised to believe that there are logical steps to a relationship.  You go out….date for however many months and then “get serious”….get engaged after meeting the family….and then get married.  Why do the steps have to go in that order, our society likes to push things on us that someone at some point decided was the “normal” thing to do.  Love and relationships is definitely one of the things that we are suppose to follow protocol with.  I think this is quickly changing. 

There are all types of families and relationships in our country today.  It is no longer thought of as normal to have two parents and 2.5 kids with a dog.  Some people say that is because our society is going down hill.  I disagree, I think that it is because we as people are giving into our emotions rather than our logic.

Now that doesn’t mean that I’m all for 15 year olds running off together because they think that they are in love with each other, but I do think that as adults we need to start looking at the world that has been created around us and not at what we have been raised to believe is around us.  As adults we should consider our options instead of throwing away opportunities because they are not believed to be “normal” in our society.  This does not mean to go and be stupid in the name of love, but it does mean to consider the validity in those emotions that you can’t control and you know are right. 

As another movie stated so plainly, “your life is defined by opportunities, even those you miss.”

I am having trouble

Can’t think straight anymore

Everything is consumed by fog

The world spins around me

I can’t find solitude in the madness

There is only chaos everywhere I look

Running only gets you so far away

Eventually you have to stop

Life, death, Running, Standing Still

It’s all the same if you don’t know how to look for clarity

Colors swirl in your mind

Causing Chaos everywhere

No one knows what to think or do

It’s just life and we’re here living it

Yossarian looked at him soberly and tried another approach. “Is Orr crazy?”
“He sure is,” Doc Daneeka said.
“Can you ground him?”
“I sure can. But first he has to ask me to. That’s part of the rule.”
“Then why doesn’t he ask you to?”
“Because he’s crazy,” Doc Daneeka said. “He has to be crazy to keep flying combat missions after all the close calls he’s had. Sure, I can ground Orr. But first he has to ask me to.”
“That’s all he has to do to be grounded?”
“That’s all. Let him ask me.”
“And then you can ground him?” Yossarian asked.
“No. Then I can’t ground him.”
“You mean there’s a catch?”
“Sure there’s a catch,” Doc Daneeka replied. “Catch-22. Anyone who wants to get out of combat duty isn’t really crazy.”
There was only one catch and that was Catch-22, which specified that a concern for one’s safety in the face of dangers that were real and immediate was the process of a rational mind. Orr was crazy and could be grounded. All he had to do was ask; and as soon as he did, he would no longer be crazy and would have to fly more missions. Orr would be crazy to fly more missions and sane if he didn’t, but if he was sane he had to fly them. If he flew them he was crazy and didn’t have to; but if he didn’t want to he was sane and had to. Yossarian was moved very deeply by the absolute simplicity of this clause of Catch-22 and let out a respectful whistle.
“That’s some catch, that Catch-22,” he observed.
“It’s the best there is,” Doc Daneeka agreed.