My friend said to me today “Life is all about self-confidence.”  I would agree with that to some extent, I would at least agree that having self-confidence, or the lack there of, definitely reflects in most parts of your life…your career, love life, social life….etc.  Having self-confidence can really change your life, and I can say that from experience.  I use to lack confidence in myself to the point where I didn’t have much of a social life or love life…I’ve always felt pretty confident in the work field, which is fortunate because no matter what I’ve been able to make a pretty good impression in the work field.  But having a career is only so fulfilling….

I think it’s important to distinguish between arrogance, the impression of confidence, and actually being comfortable with yourself and sure of yourself.  I think in a social/love life it is important that you know who you are and are comfortable with that before you bring other people into the mix at least in any type of serious way.  I think arrogance generally comes from the lack of self confidence and people overcompensating; and lets be serious, nobody likes anyone who thinks they are the end all be all, gift to the earth and can do no wrong.  If you are only giving the impression of confidence, it will catch up with you, people can pick up on your uncertainties, or you will simply come off as arrogant, and once again, nobody likes an arrogant person. 

It is very important to always portray confidence in the work place though, and I know that sounds contradictory, but it shouldn’t surprise anyone.  There are different rules for everything in life, this is no different.  I think you will be much more successful to always seem confident in your career…nobody wants to promote or even hire (in most cases) someone who seems unsure.  You could be the most qualified person, but if you don’t believe that and let the confidence of that knowledge shine through, your chances have just shrunk a great deal.

I guess what I’m saying in all of this, is that my friend was right, and self confidence is important in life….you can still exist but who knows to what quality of life you will have your existence until you simply die out and disappear off the radar……