Death is a part of life that effects everyone differently; some people fear death, while others long for it, some experience the death of others as a part of their job and see it every day, while others can’t bare to watch a movie that has a death scene. Some people can experience the death of someone close and celebrate because they believe they are in a better place, while others weep and are never the same because part of their soul was just torn away. Death can take its time in coming, or come suddenly unannounced….Natural death is not something that we have control over. We can bring death sooner, but we can only hold it off for so long. Death comes to us all, no matter how rich, or how poor, it is part of our lives and it has to be dealt with at some point, it’s not going to go away if you ignore it.
I think it’s odd that some people think they know how you should react to a death of a loved one…the steps of grief, as if everyone is wired the same and will have the same emotional responses to everything….although granted most people go through the steps in one way or another, just because it’s not reflecting your idea of what should be happening, does not mean that that person should not feel the way they feel, and should not deal with death in their own way. As in all things in life, I hate that our society wants to criticize or critique the way some people feel or react…as if they can help those things.