Shining Thru

Could you kill the person that you love to save them from something worse?  Could you sacrifice breaking your own heart and rip it out as you declare your love for that person and kill them?  Watching The X-Men:  The Last Stand movie got me thinking about that.  It must be one of the hardest things anyone would ever have to do….right up there will having to decide weather to have an abortion or not if you know your child would have a horrible disease that WILL kill them before they are five and will only make them suffer until them….What do you do?  Do you give them the gift of life along with suffering while they are briefly on this earth, or do you spare them all of that and end it before it begins?  How can you ask someone to make that decision?

When the truth is unknown

When the truth is blurry

Step back and wonder….

Does It Matter?

What’s happening only matters if you care

If you put value on the action

The truth, is only true if you believe it

Perception is your reality,

No matter how skewed it might become.

Truth in the depths of your soul

Can it be ignored…can denial really last?

Can the mind cover up for what the heart feels?

What is the truth?

What you believe or what you see or what you feel?

What is experience other than what you think you experience….

Your perception of the experience creates the reality of the experience

Reality……

Only a matter of perception…

and yet people put so much weight behind it

Every one’s truth is different, but where does it come from?

Does it matter?  Is it important to know the ultimate truth?

Why mess with a reality you’re comfortable in for the plain truth?

Why change realities by allowing your perception to change?

What if things will be better?  What if things will be worse?

What if the truth scares you?

What if you’re reality is denial?

Should you search for the truth when you have already established your reality?

Grabbing the Past

Snatching the moment

Not wanting to let it go

Not wanting time to move

Wanting to stay in the moment

The precious moments that make life happy

The precious moments that make you want to live

The moments that remind you of what beauty is.

We flip through the memories

The pages that have caught the glimpses

The pages that we want to live in

Because those pages have the happy moments

The love that you know

The love that you’ve seen grow

In those pages you can see,

The love and beauty that make life worth living.

I think we are setting up the younger generation for failure.  I think that we are pushing for all of the wrong things, instead of trying to encourage things like hard work, and good social skills, showing respect, etc…we are trying to tell them to simply be positive…well being positive is great, but not always possible.  What about the child who doesn’t have anything to be positive about, doesn’t have a good family or a good  home life, maybe they are even scared to go home at night, how can you tell that child that they are not being successful in school because they are not positive enough?

I was reading a very interesting article the other day about psychology facts that we have been forced to believe or made to think were true simply because someone said it…one of these myths is about about self confidence.  The article made a great point about how we are teaching kids that they need to work for the wrong things, they need to be self confident, without giving them the tools to do so.  We aren’t teaching them good social skills or how to be successful in school, we are teaching them to be cocky, arrogant, and ignorant at best.  The author simply pointed out that we are connecting the fact that a child has self esteem to the fact that they are successful, when really we should be looking at the fact that the success is making the child self confident.  I would have to fully agree with this point.  What good does it do to tell a child to believe in themselves if we never teach them how to accomplish those goals we tell them to believe in?  It wont do any good for anyone. 

I do believe that a sense of self worth comes from many different aspects of a person’s life.  And having confidence can make things a bit easier for you, at least I think so, but I don’t believe that by simply believing you are the best, you will be…By simply believing that you will land a 3 figure job, you will….By only believing that you will be famous, you will….I think that we are only hurting our younger generation by feeding them these lies.  I think that we should be telling them that life is a struggle and if you want something that’s great, but you’re more likely than not going to have to work hard for it. 

Maybe we should stop trying to make everyone feel so good and simply be honest with them.  Lies aren’t going to help our children when they get out into the real world and experience it without warning.

Laying down attempting to sleep

IN the surrounding darkness

Your mind starts to race

Like a crumbling avalanche

The thoughts tumble through your brain

Spilling in a constant overflow

Racing in every direction

You will them to stop

But your eyes stay open

Insisting on consciousness

Instead of the calming rest,

the escape found in sleep eludes.

You lay awake as the hours tick by

Not just minutes of waiting but hours

Waiting for sleep not knowing if relief will come

Relief from the day is so tempting

And yet it does not come….so you wait.

Staring in the darkness, you wait.

Perception

Reality

Spinning Round

Never stopping

three stories, one event

three people, never the same

three views, nothing similar.

what truth is in perception

what beliefs are insulted by the other

When one disagrees

Who is in the right?

Who knows what is true?

It doesn’t matter in the end

Perception is the only reality.

Perception, Truth, Reality….

It’s strange when you think about the relationship of these three words.  Your perception of the truth is your reality…it doesn’t really matter what other people see as true, because the truth is different for everyone.  Three people could see the exact same thing happen and yet three different stories will come out of the event…how is this possible?  Who is telling the truth?  How can everyone be honest and yet no one know the truth?  These are all questions that I’m sure police officers have to deal with all of the time. 

Is there such a thing as absolute truth?  If our perception is our reality, and reality is what you live by and how you arrange your life, then does an absolute truth really exist?  And if it does exist, does it matter?  Is it important to know the truth or simply what you believe to be the truth.  Some people can live in denial for weeks, months, or even years about things that they don’t want to admit to themselves is true.  They could have proof right in their hands and still go on believing other wise.  For them, their beliefs are their truth because they can’t handle the thought or don’t want to have to handle the thought of another reality.  They want things to stay as they are, and the only way to keep reality from shifting to is to hold on to that false security… to put up a wall and convince yourself that nothing matters except for what you “know” to be true. 

A person’s mind is a very powerful thing.  I think that there is a lot of truth to the phrase, mind over matter.  A person can convince themselves of just about anything if they really want to, or sometimes need to, just to survive.  Does it matter that we know the truth, or does it matter that we understand our perceptions to the point where our reality will help us to survive?  Does any of it matter beyond what goes on in your own head?

“Plastic, they’ve learned…”  A quote from X-Men:  The last stand. 

I thought the quote was pretty clever when I watched the movie for the first time today.  It got me thinking if we ever really learn that quickly, or if it takes time and time again of failure before someone figures out that the same thing is going to happen every time. 

Things seem so much clearer in the movies…in reality you watch people make the same painstakingly stupid mistakes, but there’s nothing you can do to convince them that they are being stupid.  So many people want to stick with what they have planned, even when the plan is obviously not working.  They could be going down in flames and still say, don’t do anything, stick to the flight plan….Have we really failed in our society to the point that people can not make on the spot decisions to make things better?  To change direction because things aren’t going as planned?  Why is it so hard for people to see something that is not working and logically say, we need a new plan…instead they generally say let’s try it one more time the same way…..

What is so wrong with change?  Why can’t we learn from our mistakes?  I’m not sure when mistakes became so bad that we can’t own up to them, but I think it would be much more useful for us to embrace our mistakes as learning experiences. 

But people will keep making the same mistakes until we create a society that can think on their feet, is more innovative, and doesn’t keep falling in the same traps, letting history repeat itself, time and time again.

New and exciting Ride

New People New Faces Everywhere

Bumping Laughing Talking

A new year begins

New experiences await

The excitement of anticipation is there

Waiting to see what will come

Hoping for the best

Not thinking about the worse

Knowing you have something to hope for is enough.

The largest meaning can come from the smallest word, or a simple look, or the slightest change in tone….It’s amazing how much we can read into the words and actions of others, even when, at times there is nothing to read into, it was a simple statement to that person, but to you, it changed your whole perspective. 

It’s crazy how some words hold such value to you, while another person just throws them away or uses them without spare.  How some words knock you down while holding another person up, maybe simply hearing them called that is what causes the conflict…..Words and body language are powerful tools, and deadly weapons, at least deadly in an emotional war. 

Verbal and emotional wars happen all over, all the time, between all sorts of people.  Some of the things people say can really hurt and sting, or smolder until you think you’re going to go crazy if you don’t talk about it…what’s funny is that sometimes they don’t even know that they hold that kind of power.  A person who loves you and who you love and trust can really break you down with a simple word or phrase; or the lack of a phrase or kiss, or a change in body language towards you….It’s amazing how all of these things can mess with the human mind and emotions….

How can we keep our emotions from taking over the logical side when we have to rely on our emotions when dealing with the people that we love.  We don’t necessarily have to know why we love them the way that we do, with such fire and passion, we simply do, because our emotions are so over powering that they can’t be ignored by the logical side of things.  The same way that they can’t be ignored when they have been damaged or knocked down so hard that they are out of breath for the moment. 

I wish we could realize the power that we have on the people around us, the influence that a simple kind word or remembering to call to say hello, give a hug or a smile, or say “I love you” to that one person…..that can mean a lot to someone who loves and trusts you, and/or someone who respects you.