Is it possible for some people to make any emotion that they experience on a regular basis into their security blanket?  Even if it is not a positive emotion, is it possible to become attached to it?  Is that why some people go after abusive relationship after abusive relationship?  Why some people don’t know what to do when a fear of theirs has been removed?…a fear that they have experienced and dealt with all of their life, suddenly gone…something like losing someone close to them, or poverty, or any number of things???

Is it possible that some people are so desperate for emotional security that they find it in any emotion available?  Can fear, anger, sadness, drama, confusion, all be used as security if they are all that are available?  I feel sorry for people who don’t get to experience, happiness and love enough to the point that they reach for something else, something negative, something that sets them up for failure….I would be scared that once you reach for those negative things as your security, you would turn down happiness even when it was placed in your lap because you would no longer know how to feel without the sadness, or fear, or whatever else you had been clinging to. 

I have met several people who don’t seem to be happy unless they have something to be unhappy about…I know it seems like a contradiction, but I know those people exist….I’m not sure how it’s justified in their minds, but I have to wonder if they have just become so accustomed to the negative that they fight against the positive.  Do they fight it because they are afraid of the positive, or because they are not use to it, or because they don’t think they deserve it, or for some reason that only they can understand?

I would hope that everyone would have something positive to cling to, but I know that unfortunately that is not always the case…as much as I may wish it was.