Shining Thru » acceptance

Secrets

cnj222 — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:34:36 +0000

Are secrets good things or bad? Do they have to be one or the other? Should people keep things just for themselves? Is it possible to have secrets that you don’t even realize that you have?

What about things that you haven’t had time to puzzle out for yourself and therefore simply can’t share them with anyone? If people hate surprises, should you try and force them onto them just because you like to see people surprised?

Secrets are kept every day. It’s really nice when you know that you have someone you can tell all of your secrets to and still be loved for who you are, no matter how deviant or taboo the secrets may be. It’s nice to know that at least one person will always love you no matter what. It’s also nice to know that when you really love a person you can accept all of that person….all of the secrets, all of the things that make them unique. It’s nice to be loved. But what happens when that love is the secret that you have to keep from others…what happens when that love isn’t out in the open for everyone to see. If you don’t know what will happen with the amazing love that fills you with a passion that wont fade.

Everyone has secrets from someone….even if it’s just from the people that you work with because you never know how they would react or how long you would have a job if you showed them who you truly are. All that you can hope for is for the people that you love and who love you to always accept you and all of your secrets, openly and proudly. No conditions…just love.

Defensive Minds

cnj222 — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:57:22 +0000

What cau, ses some people to get defensive at the smallest comment, while others never stop to think that they might offend someone with one of those comments. Sometimes the same people that make the comments are the ones that are the quickest to be on the defensive if something is said in their direction.

What is it that makes us want to always defend our reputation, even to people that do not matter in our lives, or maybe we don’t even know? I wish we had more people like the few that I know who are so confident in who they are that they could really care less about anybody else’s opinion about them. I wonder if it is lack of self confidence, guilt, or some other deceitful feeling that makes us feel like we need to defend ourselves against ugly rumors that have no bearing on anything except to entertain the small minds that create them.

So many people feel the need to get up, get loud, or get angry when something is said about them…maybe true, maybe not…sometimes the truth hurts more than the lies.

Waves of Acceptance

cnj222 — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 01:08:20 +0000

Like the waves gentle pulse along the shore

Acceptance comes in calm gentle waves

Acceptance, as the calm and the peace come with it

Knowing that what will be, will be, knowing that I’m not in control

Knowing that love will last

Love and hope, admiration and trust

Knowing that the caring love is still in the two hearts

Peace and Joy are the hope, it’s what brings on the waves of acceptance

Love and trust will bring on the sparkles of the water

As the sun sets on another day I hear the waves’ gentleness

As I lay down I can feel my heart beat soften and relax

Acceptance throughout my body, as I think of you

The joy and peace found in your love

Knowing that the calm voice of peace is close at hand

Knowing that although the heart strains, Love holds it together.

The American Dream

cnj222 — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 23:52:47 +0000

The American Dream….so many raced to get to the “New World” to get a new fresh start for themselves for their family. People have come from all over the world to be American…and yet we seem to easily forget that fact. Our country is still very negative and degrading towards “outsiders”…but how can there be outsiders when the only people who were here, Native Americans, when the immigrants came, the immigrants killed most of the population? If Americans are made up of generations that came from other countries, how is it that as a society we are still very unwelcoming to new immigrants…we still fear those that we do not understand. People like to say things like, “why can’t they be more American?” and “they’re in our country now and need to act like it” or “they need to go back to their country if they don’t like our traditions.” All too often these types of phrases are spoken, have people really forgotten, or never realized that the American society is a hodgepodge of cultures, traditions, and languages from all over the world. The perception is that Americans speak English, but many Americans don’t, and many more throughout the time of the United States did not speak English when they first arrived here. I am willing to be that many of these people who like to speak out against the immigrants now coming to America, are the grandchildren, or great grandchildren of someone who did not speak English here in America. Besides that, we do not speak a pure form of English, our language has many words and phrases that have been adopted throughout the generations from countries all over the world. And yet, people have an issue if they want to keep some of the cultural traditions that their ancestors have practiced for as long as anyone can remember.

Some people are quick to say that people should adopted American cultural traditions when they move here, but what most of those people don’t realize is that a lot of the American heroes and traditions are based on lies. Because America wanted to declare its independence from England, and it was such a new country, they simply made things up, or stretched the truth enough to give people something to celebrate and create a sense of community and nationalism. What is wrong with people wanting to live in America, be American, while still hanging on to their heritage? Nothing, besides the ignorance of those people who can’t see that their own traditions are also based on a heritage, they just happen to be in the majority of people with that same heritage and those same customs and traditions.

Many people don’t realize that like the immigrants that they are speaking out against, or criticizing because they want to celebrate their heritage as they come to a new country, are probably very similar to what their relatives went through when they first arrived in this country. I think that we need to realize that there isn’t anything to fear in differences of heritage or culture, instead we should embrace and respect each other’s differences and realize that our diversity is what makes us American. When we are able to live in peace, with acceptance of our diversity, then and only then will I think that we have accomplished “the American Dream”.

Dealing with people

cnj222 — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 02:26:14 +0000

It’s said that it takes all kinds of people to make a world….I think that’s true, whether we are looking at the whole world or just the world that you live in as a person, there are going to be different dynamics of people any time two people are put together in a small space, or have to interact in any way. Dealing with people can get frustrating, but I don’t think it will ever change. There will always be people around, and we will always have to deal with somebody that we don’t get along with, or at least don’t quite see eye to eye with. Now, I try not to judge people, and just accept them for who they are….but accepting and liking are two different things. Sometimes we have to just accept that a person is a real jerk, and leave it there…there is no use in hoping that a person will magically change, those great epiphanies seem to only happen in movies, at least in my experience. Now, it’s great if you can make a person realize something and really open up their eyes to new experiences…but how often can that really happen…some people will argue that just change or touching one person is enough…and maybe that’s true for them…or there is the other extreme who want to change everybody and wont accept anyone who isn’t like them. Of course there are the people who say that they don’t want to change anybody and just want to leave everyone else alone, and I wonder what causes that attitude… I wonder if it’s because they have tried and feel like they have failed or if they really just want to be left alone, or maybe they just feel like the world is beyond help. Why is it so hard for us, as a society, to accept people for who they are and not try to change them?