Shining Thru

I’m kind of tried of hearing people complain about people in public service jobs:  the cops only eat donuts and drink coffee, teachers are over paid babysitters, nurses only write things down for the doctors, or couldn’t make it through med school….

People make these complaints until they need that service from someone in the community and we wonder why these people are bitter.  They probably love their job, or they wouldn’t do it for the crappy pay.  But instead of thanks they generally get complaints and people who don’t understand why anything that they dream up might simply not be possible….

Why do people think that only their needs are important?  Or that they should always be the first priority?  Instead the people who try to do public services only end up being complained about and hated.  People only want to complain, without taking the time to understand what others have to do.  I think that people should really take the time to look at what other people have to do instead of wondering why they are not doing what you want them to do.

Stinging slap, pleasant sting

The bad can sometimes feel good

Why is it that although one person may be hurt

Another person can feel loved by the same act?

Some words can reach out and touch one person…yet offend another

Some actions can draw the attention of some people…and get the silent treatment from others

Some people like the very things another person hates

People are all unique in their desires and wants….

I wonder why we all work so differently and yet we are all the same being….

We are all humans, we are all people society…some of different societies, but all societies none the less

And yet some of the things taboo in one culture are embarrassed in another…

One thing tabooed and outlawed in your own culture and society may be the very thing that you want the most in life…

Why is it that some people are forced to hide what they want simply because of society protocol?  

I don’t think that desires can be controlled…we can only control our reaction to our want

Should a person downplay their desires because society says it’s not something that they should want to have?  Or should they fight to have it?  Should they proudly open up about their desires…or sneak around behind closed doors?

Sadly I think that most people would agree that as long as our American society stays as judgemental as it is, then we will have to suppress what we want the most, and keep it behind closed doors, or give up the idea of a professional life.

It’s strange that our bodies crave things that we are sometimes unaware that we want or need so much.  It seems that everyone’s cravings are different, some people crave foods and drinks, while others crave adventure, or sex, or maybe some other thing that they have to keep hidden away behind closed doors. 

How is it that soemtimes our bodies understand something that our minds cannot?  Why is it that we get these great desires that cannot be ignored, it’s hard to put them out of mind for awhile.  Sometimes a person’s mood can be changed by the want of something that they want so badly. 

Sometimes we want a thing because it’s something that we are use to and haven’t had in awhile, sometimes we might not know why we want a particular thing.  It’s strange the way our body works with our minds…making us aware of different things, hunger, thirst, etc.  It’s the same thing when we want a particular thing…I have to wonder what makes our bodies feel like they want a certain thing for seemingly no reason….

I think we are setting up the younger generation for failure.  I think that we are pushing for all of the wrong things, instead of trying to encourage things like hard work, and good social skills, showing respect, etc…we are trying to tell them to simply be positive…well being positive is great, but not always possible.  What about the child who doesn’t have anything to be positive about, doesn’t have a good family or a good  home life, maybe they are even scared to go home at night, how can you tell that child that they are not being successful in school because they are not positive enough?

I was reading a very interesting article the other day about psychology facts that we have been forced to believe or made to think were true simply because someone said it…one of these myths is about about self confidence.  The article made a great point about how we are teaching kids that they need to work for the wrong things, they need to be self confident, without giving them the tools to do so.  We aren’t teaching them good social skills or how to be successful in school, we are teaching them to be cocky, arrogant, and ignorant at best.  The author simply pointed out that we are connecting the fact that a child has self esteem to the fact that they are successful, when really we should be looking at the fact that the success is making the child self confident.  I would have to fully agree with this point.  What good does it do to tell a child to believe in themselves if we never teach them how to accomplish those goals we tell them to believe in?  It wont do any good for anyone. 

I do believe that a sense of self worth comes from many different aspects of a person’s life.  And having confidence can make things a bit easier for you, at least I think so, but I don’t believe that by simply believing you are the best, you will be…By simply believing that you will land a 3 figure job, you will….By only believing that you will be famous, you will….I think that we are only hurting our younger generation by feeding them these lies.  I think that we should be telling them that life is a struggle and if you want something that’s great, but you’re more likely than not going to have to work hard for it. 

Maybe we should stop trying to make everyone feel so good and simply be honest with them.  Lies aren’t going to help our children when they get out into the real world and experience it without warning.

How much do people need and desire the emotion of love?  I feel like a lot of people try to bring as many people that they love into their lives as possible.  While others fear the commitment, they fear the need they feel, and don’t trust anyone and therefore push away anyone who loves them.  What is it about this emotion that makes it so powerful, how can something that is so beautiful at times be so hurtful at others?  Even when you have the love, sometimes it is so passionate and powerful that it hurts; and it becomes really painful while the person that you are in love with isn’t there…even for a short time, and heart breaking when it’s forever. 

Why does this emotion seem to be among those that we appreciate, search for, and fear the most?  Love effects us in so many ways, it’s just so unusual….at least when we know we’re scared we know we’re scared, but in love we never know what will happen….and yet I keep desiring to keep it in my life.  Left to do nothing but Hope for the best and hope that it continues on and enjoy every second of it. 

Love is important to everyone, at least I think so…even the people that do fear it, don’t trust it, and push it away…I think that they still secretly want it, even if they wont admit it to themselves.

Twists and turns, climbing through the loops

Trying to reach the goals of life

Don’t let people manipulate your goals

Don’t set the goals based on the wrong ideals

Be careful with ignorance, it will get you every time

Sometimes we float on clouds

Sometimes we drive full speed through the twists and turns.

Sometimes we can dance and spin

……Getting dizzy and out of focus, just for a second.

Then the haze clears and we are able to see our true desires

The desires that last for life

The commitment of Love and Life, Passion and Desire.

Plans, hopes, dreams…

fall through your fingers like dry sand

Sometimes like clay, clumping in bits and pieces,

IF squeezed without being dropped

Why waste your time, why fill your head

Why not look around where you are?….because we want more

we know there is more and we want it…

Want, need, desire, crave

See, Act, Fight For….sometimes to no avail

Sometimes winning more than we knew

“There it is.  We get used to everything.  We find hope in anything.”  -  Ender’s Shaddow by Orson Scott Card.

I thought this was a very interesting quote as I was reading along.  I was wondering if it was actually true.  I can remember when a teacher once told me of a motif found in Crime and Punishment which was a square foot of space, someone being trapped in a small space, praying for death, but then when faced with it, they choose to stay where they are.  I wonder if that is how it works for most people?  I wonder if most people will adapt and “get use to” ANYTHING rather than choosing death, or not being alive at that time.  …. it can’t work for everyone, or there wouldn’t be suicide….those people have obviously not been able to adapt, and just get use to their situation…or do they just snap and not give themselves time to get use to it? 

As for hope, it’s a concept that I’ve wondered about quite often…what makes us hope in something…a situation, a person, a religion, a higher being; whatever the thing may be that we find great hope in….what is the reason behind it?  Do we need to feel that there is hope?  Or is there really reason to hope?  What good does having hope do for a person?…..

Are there certain emotions and feelings that we search for in life and don’t feel complete until we find them?  Are some people designed to only search for some of those things while others crave to experience all of them?  Does everyone have need of “hope”?  What if they are in their perfect situation?  What about a person who has gotten so use to not having something that they no longer feel hope for anything, have no ambition, have not need for the emotional comfort of hope, since it has only let them down in the past?  What about the people who secretly hope, but don’t want to admit it to anyone, sometimes even themselves?  They want to hope, they still have this “need” for it, but have been let down so many times that they don’t want to give it another chance to knock them down again. 

Are these things instilled in most of us and we just adjust to what we do with the needs and desires we are designed with?  Or are they things that society has drilled into us as needing?  Maybe it’s neither of these options….