Shining Thru

People are often times hard to figure out.  I have to wonder what motivates a person to do the things that they do, to live the way that they life….and I haven’t come up with an answer yet.  I’m sure all people are motivated by different things, and different actions are often motivated by different things.  Are there some things inside of us that drive us to do certain things, or act a certain way?  Do our emotions motivate us to do these things, people’s opinions of us?  Society’s protocol, where does that come in?

Joy, Lust, Passion, Doubt, Guilt, Anger:  All different emotions that get very different reactions from people at different times and towards different things.  I have to wonder how many of these things can motivate a person, are there more than one thing at a time that motivates a person, maybe pride and the well being of their family, or guilt as well as wanting to do the right thing….How many different motivating factors get strung into the background of every decision that we make as a person?

I know there are some people that act on a whim…all of the time, or so it seems, but even they are motivated by something, I don’t think that the decisions come all by themselves.  There are other people who sit for hours and make plans and lists.  Some people let other people make their decisions for them, not want the responsibility of a risky plan or one that back fires.

I think that we all have different things to consider in our lives, children, parents, siblings, spouses, lovers, friends, work, money, all sorts of different things that contribute into our plans for the future, or for decisions that take effect immediately.

You can only trust people to be as exactly as they are.  A hard lesson that must be learned, or you can go through life trying to see the good and trusting people and getting screwed over in the end.

If you trust the people that only have their best interest at heart, to have yours as well, you will lose out every time.  And then people want to quickly back track and let you know that you should go on trusting them…but why??  What’s your motive?  There isn’t one….the only thing you can do is move forward a little wiser, and remember the lesson you learned about trust so that you never find yourself in that position again.

It’s such a shame that it comes down to this, I wish that we could believe what people tell us, and believe that they mean what they say when they appear to give a damn about you, but in reality, you have got to do what’s best for you.  Because you are the only person that you know what lies behind in the depths of the mind as motivation.  Everyone else’s dark recesses of the mind will always be a mystery.  You can never know what lies behind the actions of another until the end game is seen.  Trying to figure it out will only exhaust the mind, it’s better just to make sure that you are always watching out for yourself, and as selfish as that sounds, it’s better than getting screwed over.

I think it’s interesting how many different things can motivate different people.  Some people are motivated by something that would completely offended another person, while other people are only motivated by one or two things.  However you look at it, it always seems like there are many more things to distract a person rather than to motivate them.  A person finds themselves getting bored and suddenly can think of a million other things that “need” to get done rather than the thing that they are working on…or if you try to force yourself to work on a project without the motivation, you might just find that you are simply staring at it while the clock ticks the minutes by. 

So when you find that you are unmotivated, what do you do?  Is it better to try and force yourself to work on something that you are obviously not interested in, or is it better to let yourself be distracted by everything except that one thing that you really were planning on getting done? 

How do you figure out what motivates a person?  How can you try and find that one trigger that will get it done; people can’t always figure this out for themselves much less other people.

I think it’s interesting to learn the way people work…everyone has different emotions, different reactions, and different things that motivate them.  Have you ever gone to the mall or out in public and just sat and watched people?  Everyone is motivated by something different, and I find that I like to guess what that is with complete strangers.  Some people just appear completely obsessed with something:  looks, money, love (lust), being the best……everyone has something that motivates them, the key is to figure out what it is when you are dealing with them.  I think this is a hard thing to do….it’s hard enough just to figure out what you are motivated by.  I think it’s an important aspect of self evaluation because if you don’t know what motivates you, how can you know if someone is trying to use that to control you, or at least an aspect of you???  Something to think about anyway.