Shining Thru

What is normal?  What seems normal and obvious to you may be the exact opposite to the person sitting next to you.  You never know what their experiences have been and you don’t know that your perception is shared by those that share the room with you now.  We have all come from different backgrounds, even if you grew up in the same neighborhood, maybe even as next door neighbors, that might mean that you have a better general, mutual agreement of the term “normal” but in reality, normal doesn’t exist.

Normal is some type of thing that we have fooled our society into believing.  Normal is a fake term that is used when people expect the other people around them to understand what is going on inside of their head.  The truth is that nobody can really be inside your head, and it shouldn’t be assumed that other people know your thoughts as if they are being broadcast on the wall behind you at all times…like the people you are talking to have cue cards.

I think that a lot of misunderstandings could be avoided if people were more open to the fact that not everyone has the same background, the same beliefs or the same views on things…and that is ok.  So many people get so defensive like their livelihood is being challenged simply because someone else has a different thought about something.  So instead of opening their mind up to a new experiences, they lock it down and dig in their heels to argue, when no argument is necessary.

“Normal”….that is something that doesn’t exist and probably never will.  What is normal is what the media tells the younger generations to believe is normal…but then what media are we talking about?  What stations are people watching?  What magazines are they reading?  What radio stations are they listening to?  All kinds of things define “normal” for our society, but in reality it is all a matter of perception.

Why is it that some people can live in some delusion where they think that they are so much better than everyone around them and can decide what should and shouldn’t be in other people’s lives….We have no idea what goes on behind closed doors, further more, we have no idea what is liked behind closed doors.  Everyone has their secrets.  Looking at some sites today, I was reading a lot of comments about certain videos.  Some people were really nasty with their comments about other people simply because they didn’t approve of whatever behavior was going on in the video.  Talking about how she should go after the guy or whatever the case may be….it’s like some of these people can’t even fathom that other people may actually enjoy things that they don’t.  Someone once told me with a shrug, “some people eat bugs.”  I think that this is a great phrase to go by, some people do eat bugs, some people think that raw heart is a delicious treat for special occasions to eat.  Who are we to say that they are wrong in any regard.  What right do we have to disregard the likes or preferences of some people simply because they do not line up with our concept of “normality”.  I don’t think that such a thing as “normal” really exists.  I think that some people think what they are use to is normal but they have no idea what goes on in the next house down the road…not really.  They know what they have seen and what people have told them, but how many people reveal every intimate aspect of their life???  I’m not saying that the actions of a serial killer should be condoned and chalked up to them simply being unique and expressing themselves…but I am saying that people should really have more of an open mind and realize that everyone has their secrets, everyone has something going on behind closed doors, and maybe that should be considered before condemning another person for their beliefs, actions, kinks, preferences, or lack there of….

It’s interesting to think that we only see the world through our perspective, it’s like we wear blinders to the rest of the world or to the way other people see it.  The way we were raised is “normal” to us, but to someone a block away may have lived a completely different life growing up and might think that your way of life is odd and unusual.  There is nothing wrong with the fact that I don’t think that “normal” actually exists, at least not past our own reality and concept of it.  The problem is when we don’t stop to consider or respect the fact that other people are going to see things differently than we do.  The way we see things is only our perception.  We can’t dream of what might go through someone else’s mind, even if they are in the same situation as you and seeing the same thing as you, they could be and probably are having a completely different experience from you, especially if they have grown up living a different life style than you. 

I don’t understand why people can’t stop to consider that their way isn’t the only way, and just because people see things differently doesn’t make them wrong.  I wish people could open their eyes and see things beyond what is right in front of them.  A lot of time people choose to be blind to certain things…I think that politicians do it all the time.  Things like public education is changed all of the time by politicians, but the likelihood of their children going to public education and having to deal with the result of the laws being passed is slim….if there is any chance at all…their kids are going to private school, and therefore I can’t imagine that these politicians have any idea what it is like for a teacher to have to stand in a public school classroom and try to enforce a law made by a politician that has never had to teach or deal with their child in a classroom that has to abide by the law. 

I think that we are all guilty of being blind to another person’s point of view at one time or another, but I think that as a society we should work harder to find acceptance in our differences and simply be open to the fact that not everyone sees things the same and everyone’s experiencing something differently, despite the fact that we are all in the same country…we should really take the time to consider what another person might be seeing or experiencing.

I think that everyone has a right to get their emotional release, a break from stress and life.  I also don’t think that we should judge people for the way that they get that release as long as it’s nothing that will hurt anyone else.  If they are just keeping to themselves and need to do something like binge or are a part of a fetish of some kind…that is their business.  I think that we have to spend too much time living up to society’s idea of “normal” (if there is even such a thing). 

Everyone deserves that chance of a moment of peace in their busy lives.  Some people go shopping, some people watch a movie, some people have a drink, some people have sex, some people eat, some dance; I say as long as it doesn’t hurt someone else they should be allowed to blow off society for a few minutes and get their moments of feeling at peace and de-stressed.