Shining Thru

Self Perception and insecurities can play a huge role in how you see the world.  It’s always surprising that a lot of the problems that people have with the world are really based around insecurities that they have about themselves, the things that keep them from being self confident in how they look, act, or simply are….

Many people complain about other people or the way the media portrays people because they are insecure with that exact opposite about themselves…I never realized it before I had a conversation with a friend who pointed it out, but they were right…you very rarely hear a confident person complaining about other people, or the society that we live in…they just make it work because they are confident in who they are and don’t care what anybody else has to say or even think about it.

And in truth, it shouldn’t matter what anyone else has to say about you,  because honestly, you are none of their business.  Granted, everyone has a different life experience and therefore see things differently…the things that annoy me, or irritate me, may be the things that you enjoy and are glad to see in our world….a lot of it is based on our background, but a lot of it is also based on who we are as a person.  If we are confident in who we are and what we do, then we shouldn’t have anything to worry about.  I realize that sometimes that is easier said than done, but it should be the case.

I think it’s funny that as I stop and think about all of this, it is the people who are constantly saying how they don’t care what other people think, and make it a point that everyone knows that they don’t care, who seem to have the most insecurities.  The ones who are promoting others not to do something because it is what society pushes for, are the same ones who try to talk themselves up or others down while condemning all society.  Maybe it’s time for those people to take a look and do a little self examining before they go off about what’s wrong with this group of people or that group, or society in general…..

I don’t think it’s a bad thing for any of us to take another look and at least be knowledgeable about the fact that our self perceptions greatly affect our perceptions of society and the world that we live in.

It’s pretty interesting pushing people’s buttons and seeing just how far people will go or just their reactions in general.  I’m not just talking about the annoyance buttons, but just to see them in different situations and seeing how they react to things like challenges, competition…everything.  It great when you can get to know someone you really care about and finding something new about them.  Even if you pretty well knew it was true, getting the confirmation of seeing it in action is great. 

I think it’s pretty interesting how people act in different situations, even myself.  When you don’t have any stress on your mind, when you’re in a fun, carefree setting, when you’re not worried about being judged, you can act completely different.  You’re still being yourself, but your reactions are different, and I would think most people are more open and I know that I feel free when I don’t have to worry about those other things. 

I think most people act different at work and at home, and I’ve known that for quite some time.  But I think that it goes further than that, in the sense that people act different while doing different things or maybe when they go out verse staying in….I think it comes down to your comfort level with yourself.  It makes sense, the more comfortable you are, the more open and free to be yourself you feel.  Those few lucky people who are completely comfortable with who they are and never try to hide anything will probably act mostly the same all the time, because they don’t have anything to hide, nothing they are ashamed of, or simply don’t care what other people have to say or their thoughts.  If only we could all be like that, I think we would all be happier people.