Shining Thru

It’s nice when you realize that the person you love really does love you for exactly who you are.  It’s nice to know that you are not expected to change, that it’s ok to be who you are.  Even the things that you fear would drive someone away are simply accepted by someone who truly loves you.  It’s so great to know that you don’t  have to that you can be completely honest and that the honesty hasn’t driven the person away….they are still there, still looking in your eyes lovingly and you know that they love you as much as you love them…that you are not alone, not drowning in this powerful emotion that you can’t choose to have or not have…it simply is or is not. 

It’s nice to know that although there is a lot that goes wrong in life or at least not the way you expect things to go…it is a lot easier knowing that you are loved and that your love is accepted with an open heart and returned.  It’s just nice to know that someone cares.  Nice to know that sometimes there really is a perfect fit and that life keeps on going as long as you keep on living and don’t give up.

I heard someone the other day talk about how in our society today it’s almost necessary to build up walls to protect yourself from all of the liars and scams that come around today.  However, if we spend so much time trying to protect ourselves by blocking things from coming in, how will we ever take the risk that is necessary for trust?  If we don’t take the risks for trust, how can we ever expect to develop any kind of real relationship?

People are so scared of being hurt that they don’t want to risk the amazing feeling of trust.  Sometimes it seems like the fear of the  little bit of pain that you could experience really battles for control over the love and trust that you could have with a person.  If you never open yourself and take that risk than trust will never be available to you….that has to be the loneliest thing in the world for someone…not to have anyone to trust. 

I hope that most people can allow themselves for at least that one right person to open up to the experience of love and trust.  It would just make me sad to think of someone going their whole life without feeling those things.

It’s strange what happens when people decide to start opening up about personal issues, thoughts, feelings, etc….It’s strange at what kind of things allow different people to lower their guards and be honest with others and themselves.  Some people need others to trust in them before they will trust in that person…while others need a safe and small environment; still others sometimes only feel comfortable in front of a large crowd.  I think it’s so strange that we are all built differently to feel comfortable in different situations.  Some people have a best friend while others only really trust their family members.  I’m sure some of it is how we are raised, but I think that some of it is hardwired into us….something that we are born with and can’t help….however, I do think that it can be altered by extreme upbringings. 
So much of how we are is learned behavior…..I still believe that there are some things that we are just born with.  What makes a person trust another person, or feel comfortable in one situation, while in another situation that might even be very similar, they are withdrawn and shy….I wonder what it is that makes people feel safe and secure?

The BitterSweet moments in life always come when they are the least expected.  Generally you don’t think, ‘wow I would love for this to happen because it will make me completely miserable in another way.’  The BitterSweet moments are what make us know we are alive, that we can feel, that we still have a beating heart that can love, be exulted, but still break and bleed. 

Things to remember in life:

“True love promises risk, not a guarantee” -unknown

Sometimes you need to just go with things to see what happens next

Trust can be a friend or an enemy — you can either trust that things will work out the way they are suppose to, or feel betrayed by trusting your feelings

Someone always gets hurt – When you try to please everyone, everyone gets hurt.

Passion often rules over logic, so be careful who and what you are passionate about or you will be left vulnerable. 

Honesty can only get you so far

You are the only one who has to live with you for 24 hours a day 7 days a week

Feelings Lie

The people who love you the most can hurt you the most

There is always something that you didn’t see coming

You never know what could happen – only what has happened, how you handled it, and try and prepare for if it happens again

You can never be prepared, everything changes with time, the same exact thing never happens twice

You will change with every event that happens in your life, the positive, the negative, and the bittersweet.

I think that the smile is the most interesting of reactions to get from someone.  A smile can mean so many different things that it is hard to know which one you are looking at when you see a smile.  A smile can mask emotions when someone is confused, nervous, anxious, or sometimes even angry.  A smile can be used to flirt.  A smile can be used when someone is shy and doesn’t know what to say.  A smile can be used by the villain when they are up to something sinister.  A smile can be used to show appreciation.  There are many uses, but I really think that smiles bring confusion.  It is easy to misread a smile. 

I have heard someone say before to never trust someone who smiles a lot.  At the time it seemed strange to me because we are trained to believe that a smile is a welcoming and warm gesture.  It makes most people feel good to see someone smile.  Now I’m not so sure they didn’t have a point.  I guess it depends on the life experiences that get you to a conclusion like what you believe a smile is.