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The sad state of things

cnj222 — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 07:00:45 +0000

We wonder why our society is going down hill, why the younger generation is less educated and more demanding…and then we read stories like the one found here http://fortheloveofya.blogspot.com/2010/10/censorship-at-its-finest-honoring-end.html and it all makes sense. It is ridiculous that parents, educators, administrators, and community members would go to these types of extremes to hurt their children and obviously go against what is in the best interest of their children. Stories like this make me sad, knowing that there are people out there who care and are doing everything, literally everything in their power to make a generation and help us to build a strong and educated younger generations, and then to see them get slammed down and attacked for caring and for doing their jobs. Ridiculous that this is the state that we find our society and our education system in. We wonder why we are stuck with the gimme generation as our future, when that is exactly what we are creating them to be…don’t work hard for what you want, simply ask until someone gives in after all you’re entitled to whatever you want because this is America….ridiculous that these are the values we are teaching our children by our examples that we set forth as parents or community members, by not standing up for what we know is right, but not holding them to a higher expectations, even what it is so obvious that is what they are craving the most. My heart is breaking for the students who loss an amazing opportunity to be taught by someone who really cared about their future and really wanted them to learn and love to learn, someone who was indeed getting results….instead they were shut down, and shown by their parents and community that wanting to expand your mind simply wouldn’t be tolerated. Those students may remember that they were taught to love reading and were introduced to new and wonderful things, but they will also remember that those thoughts and ideas persecuted someone who they held in high esteem, who they cared about and recognized that they cared about them. This teacher’s story is one that should be shared and reviewed by everyone, no matter what country, simply because everyone should know that their actions are watched by the younger generation and maybe, just maybe people should give up control long enough to realize that maybe something they didn’t think of is actually in the best interest of their child or children.

HURT

cnj222 — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 03:46:20 +0000

I’m rather sad that it turns out that all of those people who have always said, let it be known that the people you love the most can hurt you the most and I guess that is one of those lessons that sometimes a person has to learn over and over again for themselves the hard way before it sinks in. Sometimes the most vivid and nerve wrecking pain comes from simply being forgotten, no dirty words, no violence, simply forgotten as if you never existed to them in the first place. When you realize that, maybe, just maybe your idea of what the relationship you were involved in, no matter what that might be, friendship, family, or romantic, when the thought comes crashing into your denial that just maybe you were wrong and that the other person never really cared about you, it’s like getting slammed up against a brick wall by a gust of wind. Wind because you can’t touch it, it can’t hear you cuss it out, you don’t even really know if that’s what happened since there isn’t any evidence except the pain that you’re left feeling in the dark, deep despair. On edge and anxious, not knowing what’s happening around you. Are you being too clingy? Expecting too much? Or maybe, these thoughts that are seeping in have been the truth the whole time….is there any way to know? To gain clarity? All of these questions of WHY and no answers coming your way, you just want to know the truth, but you’re left lost in no man’s land…not sure what’s going on now, what’s really happened in the past, or where everything is headed for the future. You wonder if you’re feelings are valid, or if you are in so far you can’t see that you’re being irrational. You wonder if you’re going crazy. You wonder if you can feel anything without breaking down. You shut down so that you don’t explode from the pain.

Dreams

cnj222 — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 00:00:24 +0000

Dreams are like time, nobody really knows what they are…or how they are made. There are a lot of theories, but nobody really knows the truth. I think it would be wonderful to know how to acknowledge a dream and then have control throughout it, living it as if it was real until I woke up. I wish I had that kind of power over my dreams, but I’ve only realized I was dreaming a very few times and that caused me to wake up, except for one time that I can remember. How wonderful would it be to have a separate reality, where anything is possible? Where you could fly, change the background, go any place you want and try anything that may or may not be possible in the real world.

I think that it would be an amazing time to be able to dream up a world and to share that world with the people that you actually like to have around without the annoyance of the others. You could have whatever animals around that you want, or be completely animal free if you aren’t an animal person…..anything would be possible. Different colors everywhere, games, movies, whatever you like.

The movie Inception, perks a lot of interesting concepts about dreaming and controlling not only your own dreams, but influencing the dreams of others. I think it would be amazing to be able to share a dream world. To be able to create a world and invite people in, I have seen things like it with virtual worlds for online chatrooms where you design your own areas and everything, but how amazing would it be to feel like you were really there. For everything to feel real and be a memory like a real experience would be.

Would the memory of a dream be of more or less worth than that of a real life experience?

Tilting Whirlwind

cnj222 — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 15:02:59 +0000

Feeling lonely and forgotten

helpless at a distance

No understanding of how everything is chaos

Spinning helplessly out of control

One more thing is too much and tips the scales

The build up pours forth like a dam that has been released, or broken

Flooding over every inch of your being

Not able to stop, the tears flow and the thoughts spin

Jumping from one to the next to the next

Not able to stop, you wish you had the brake

A pause on life so that you could get your bearing

Figure out where you are and comprehend

But nothing is there to help you regain your balance

A smashing ending to the ride as it crashes and pieces fly

Nothing to grab or lean on

Nothing to comfort and sooth

Alone, Lost, Aching for comfort and understanding

You wobble and step, never in the same direction

Can’t find the answers when nothing will hold still

Can’t hear the answers when you’re too afraid of losing

Worried about everything and nothing

No thoughts to grasp, only spin and spin until they blur

Moving so fast, thoughts you know where there but thought were locked up

Thoughts you never wanted to bring into the light

Explode and show all of their colors

Your dreams, your fears, your life.

Truth Matters?

cnj222 — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 09:08:26 +0000

When the truth is unknown

When the truth is blurry

Step back and wonder….

Does It Matter?

What’s happening only matters if you care

If you put value on the action

The truth, is only true if you believe it

Perception is your reality,

No matter how skewed it might become.

Truth in the depths of your soul

Can it be ignored…can denial really last?

Can the mind cover up for what the heart feels?

What is the truth?

What you believe or what you see or what you feel?

What is experience other than what you think you experience….

Your perception of the experience creates the reality of the experience

Reality……

Only a matter of perception…

and yet people put so much weight behind it

Every one’s truth is different, but where does it come from?

Does it matter? Is it important to know the ultimate truth?

Why mess with a reality you’re comfortable in for the plain truth?

Why change realities by allowing your perception to change?

What if things will be better? What if things will be worse?

What if the truth scares you?

What if you’re reality is denial?

Should you search for the truth when you have already established your reality?

Lies drive us to Failure

cnj222 — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:15:53 +0000

I think we are setting up the younger generation for failure. I think that we are pushing for all of the wrong things, instead of trying to encourage things like hard work, and good social skills, showing respect, etc…we are trying to tell them to simply be positive…well being positive is great, but not always possible. What about the child who doesn’t have anything to be positive about, doesn’t have a good family or a good home life, maybe they are even scared to go home at night, how can you tell that child that they are not being successful in school because they are not positive enough?

I was reading a very interesting article the other day about psychology facts that we have been forced to believe or made to think were true simply because someone said it…one of these myths is about about self confidence. The article made a great point about how we are teaching kids that they need to work for the wrong things, they need to be self confident, without giving them the tools to do so. We aren’t teaching them good social skills or how to be successful in school, we are teaching them to be cocky, arrogant, and ignorant at best. The author simply pointed out that we are connecting the fact that a child has self esteem to the fact that they are successful, when really we should be looking at the fact that the success is making the child self confident. I would have to fully agree with this point. What good does it do to tell a child to believe in themselves if we never teach them how to accomplish those goals we tell them to believe in? It wont do any good for anyone.

I do believe that a sense of self worth comes from many different aspects of a person’s life. And having confidence can make things a bit easier for you, at least I think so, but I don’t believe that by simply believing you are the best, you will be…By simply believing that you will land a 3 figure job, you will….By only believing that you will be famous, you will….I think that we are only hurting our younger generation by feeding them these lies. I think that we should be telling them that life is a struggle and if you want something that’s great, but you’re more likely than not going to have to work hard for it.

Maybe we should stop trying to make everyone feel so good and simply be honest with them. Lies aren’t going to help our children when they get out into the real world and experience it without warning.

Perception Matters

cnj222 — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 01:06:23 +0000

Perception

Reality

Spinning Round

Never stopping

three stories, one event

three people, never the same

three views, nothing similar.

what truth is in perception

what beliefs are insulted by the other

When one disagrees

Who is in the right?

Who knows what is true?

It doesn’t matter in the end

Perception is the only reality.

Mind over Matter

cnj222 — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 14:54:05 +0000

Perception, Truth, Reality….

It’s strange when you think about the relationship of these three words. Your perception of the truth is your reality…it doesn’t really matter what other people see as true, because the truth is different for everyone. Three people could see the exact same thing happen and yet three different stories will come out of the event…how is this possible? Who is telling the truth? How can everyone be honest and yet no one know the truth? These are all questions that I’m sure police officers have to deal with all of the time.

Is there such a thing as absolute truth? If our perception is our reality, and reality is what you live by and how you arrange your life, then does an absolute truth really exist? And if it does exist, does it matter? Is it important to know the truth or simply what you believe to be the truth. Some people can live in denial for weeks, months, or even years about things that they don’t want to admit to themselves is true. They could have proof right in their hands and still go on believing other wise. For them, their beliefs are their truth because they can’t handle the thought or don’t want to have to handle the thought of another reality. They want things to stay as they are, and the only way to keep reality from shifting to is to hold on to that false security… to put up a wall and convince yourself that nothing matters except for what you “know” to be true.

A person’s mind is a very powerful thing. I think that there is a lot of truth to the phrase, mind over matter. A person can convince themselves of just about anything if they really want to, or sometimes need to, just to survive. Does it matter that we know the truth, or does it matter that we understand our perceptions to the point where our reality will help us to survive? Does any of it matter beyond what goes on in your own head?

Great Meaning in Small Words

cnj222 — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 07:41:38 +0000

The largest meaning can come from the smallest word, or a simple look, or the slightest change in tone….It’s amazing how much we can read into the words and actions of others, even when, at times there is nothing to read into, it was a simple statement to that person, but to you, it changed your whole perspective.

It’s crazy how some words hold such value to you, while another person just throws them away or uses them without spare. How some words knock you down while holding another person up, maybe simply hearing them called that is what causes the conflict…..Words and body language are powerful tools, and deadly weapons, at least deadly in an emotional war.

Verbal and emotional wars happen all over, all the time, between all sorts of people. Some of the things people say can really hurt and sting, or smolder until you think you’re going to go crazy if you don’t talk about it…what’s funny is that sometimes they don’t even know that they hold that kind of power. A person who loves you and who you love and trust can really break you down with a simple word or phrase; or the lack of a phrase or kiss, or a change in body language towards you….It’s amazing how all of these things can mess with the human mind and emotions….

How can we keep our emotions from taking over the logical side when we have to rely on our emotions when dealing with the people that we love. We don’t necessarily have to know why we love them the way that we do, with such fire and passion, we simply do, because our emotions are so over powering that they can’t be ignored by the logical side of things. The same way that they can’t be ignored when they have been damaged or knocked down so hard that they are out of breath for the moment.

I wish we could realize the power that we have on the people around us, the influence that a simple kind word or remembering to call to say hello, give a hug or a smile, or say “I love you” to that one person…..that can mean a lot to someone who loves and trusts you, and/or someone who respects you.

The American Dream

cnj222 — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 23:52:47 +0000

The American Dream….so many raced to get to the “New World” to get a new fresh start for themselves for their family. People have come from all over the world to be American…and yet we seem to easily forget that fact. Our country is still very negative and degrading towards “outsiders”…but how can there be outsiders when the only people who were here, Native Americans, when the immigrants came, the immigrants killed most of the population? If Americans are made up of generations that came from other countries, how is it that as a society we are still very unwelcoming to new immigrants…we still fear those that we do not understand. People like to say things like, “why can’t they be more American?” and “they’re in our country now and need to act like it” or “they need to go back to their country if they don’t like our traditions.” All too often these types of phrases are spoken, have people really forgotten, or never realized that the American society is a hodgepodge of cultures, traditions, and languages from all over the world. The perception is that Americans speak English, but many Americans don’t, and many more throughout the time of the United States did not speak English when they first arrived here. I am willing to be that many of these people who like to speak out against the immigrants now coming to America, are the grandchildren, or great grandchildren of someone who did not speak English here in America. Besides that, we do not speak a pure form of English, our language has many words and phrases that have been adopted throughout the generations from countries all over the world. And yet, people have an issue if they want to keep some of the cultural traditions that their ancestors have practiced for as long as anyone can remember.

Some people are quick to say that people should adopted American cultural traditions when they move here, but what most of those people don’t realize is that a lot of the American heroes and traditions are based on lies. Because America wanted to declare its independence from England, and it was such a new country, they simply made things up, or stretched the truth enough to give people something to celebrate and create a sense of community and nationalism. What is wrong with people wanting to live in America, be American, while still hanging on to their heritage? Nothing, besides the ignorance of those people who can’t see that their own traditions are also based on a heritage, they just happen to be in the majority of people with that same heritage and those same customs and traditions.

Many people don’t realize that like the immigrants that they are speaking out against, or criticizing because they want to celebrate their heritage as they come to a new country, are probably very similar to what their relatives went through when they first arrived in this country. I think that we need to realize that there isn’t anything to fear in differences of heritage or culture, instead we should embrace and respect each other’s differences and realize that our diversity is what makes us American. When we are able to live in peace, with acceptance of our diversity, then and only then will I think that we have accomplished “the American Dream”.