Shining Thru

What does it take to accept yourself for who you are?  Does it include your feelings, even if you know they aren’t always logical…does it mean not making excuses or apologies for what comes natural…even if others see it as wrong?  Does it include the situation that you find yourself in?  Can you have confidence without complete acceptance of who you are?  What if there is something that is very natural in you, but something that you want to go away, should you try and change it, or accept it and just learn how to live with it? 

Strangely enough, I think that some of the cockiest people have the lowest self confidence and have not accepted who they are; they may not even know who they are.  Self discovery is a strange feeling and a long process.  I am willing to bet that some people die, having never figured out who they really were, having always lived in someone’s shadow or the ideals others’ set for them as a child. 

If you hate the situation that you find yourself in, I can see why it would be easy to focus that in as self hatred and blaming yourself for getting yourself in the situation…and although you are responsible for your own choices in life, I don’t think that it’s any reason to hate yourself for those choices…what’s done is done, the question is how will you grow from the experience and move forward into the future with your new understand of yourself and the life that you want to lead. 

I don’t think that we can change our nature…what comes natural to us, has been their since birth…but I do think that we can decide how to use what was given to us to live the type of life that we want to live.  I think that we can accept even our worse qualities and simply learn from them and turn it into something positive that will help you go forward in life. 

I do think that in order to be truly happy, which is something beyond simple contentment, you need to accept yourself…I’m just not sure as to what all that entails.

I heard on the tv show HOUSE tonight a great line, “Religion isn’t the opium for the masses, it’s the placebo for the masses.”  I think this line can speak a lot of truth for a lot of people….I think that most people have something that has this effect of comfort for them. ..Something that they look to when they are trying to find answers for questions that simply have no explanations. 

As humans we seem to have a problem with not knowing the answers, we can’t except things that just are, we have to find an explanation for everything in this world….and what’s beyond it, if there is anything at all.  It seems to be hard for people, myself included, to just take things for what they are. 

I don’t think we’re meant to understand the way life works, whether you believe in God, a higher being, fate, or nothing at all…there just seem to be things that we can’t control and usually don’t understand why they happen the way they do….but none the less we have to deal with what comes our way, so we might as well just accept what is there.  Why search for answers that will most likely never come…why not just take life one day at a time and enjoy as much of it as you can and not worry about everything else.